A year back in work

A year ago today I went back to work after my drama queen moment and 5 months off! It was the most scary, exciting, emotional day!

I’m extremely lucky to work with the most wonderful people who welcomed me back with lots of hugs and love and tears.

But it was oh so scary! I didn’t know if I was ready, I didn’t know if I could do it, I didn’t know if I was strong enough! Physically or emotionally!

But being the stubborn madam I am, off I went and a year has passed.

I’m still not sure if I’m ready – physically or emotionally – it’s starting to be hard now! I just started crying on Sunday and told hubby I didn’t want to work anymore as it hurts too much! I have no idea where that came from! I didn’t know I was feeling like that!

I think it’s just because the pain is so bad just now, and my depression is back with a vengeance!

I’m off to the doctors tomorrow to talk about pain management and maybe upping my antidepressants, and then hopefully I can go back to loving my job!

I’ve still got a long way to go till I can give up work, so I want to enjoy it!

Next year – this post will be more positive!



Travels Done

No weigh in this week – I will get to that later!

I’ve been completely off plan! I was in Paris with work! Had the most amazing time! Felt a lot more comfortable with everyone and actually asked questions, and didn’t mind talking out loud – with the Dream Team anyway – I kept quiet when the guests were there – but that’s a work in progress! Learnt lots too, and also had it confirmed in my mind that I still have an awful lot still to find out.

Food was gorgeous. We never moved out of the hotel, ate, worked and slept there. All meals were buffet based. Breakfast was very continental. Cold meats, cheeses, pastries, yoghurts & fruit. As well as a cooked breakfast of sorts. Lunch and tea was lots of fish, and shell fish for starters, prawns, salmon, tuna, mackerel, squid, as well as oysters & muscles – although I kept away from them! Main meals – more fish, but also meat, veg & roasties, which I had. And then a yummy dessert.

Three very long days! We met for breakfast at 8am, and finished tea at about 10pm.

I was knackered when I got home, and booked Friday off! I really didn’t have the energy & my pains had well and truly kicked off. 3 days spent sat on the settee in agony taking an awful lot of pain killers. Brain fog has been awful too. I’m half way through saying something and I forget what I was saying. I go to do something and have to ask Hubby what it was I wanted to do.

Which is why there was no weigh in, I just couldn’t make it this week.

Food has been pretty bad this weekend too, I’m going with the excuse that I needed lots of stodge for energy but in all honesty I just didn’t have the motivation to think.

Tomorrow I’m back on track! I’m doing extra easy SP which is. Kick start! Got to lose this bloated feeling and motivate myself a bit. I’m in a proper rut. I think it’s got a lot to do with being fed up with all the pain too, but ,in the back of my mind I think the extra weight isn’t helping.

Well and truly all over the place just now!

Anyway – I’m going to see my doctor on Wednesday to talk about pain management and possibly up my antidepressants -they’re having a hard time keeping me happy just now.

And hopefully things will settle down a bit.

Hope you’re all doing well

Till next week


Mixed Bag!

Week 8

15 stone 7.5lb.

3 stone 7.5lb to goal

0.5lb loss

37000 steps

Bit of a mixed week! I had good and bad days with my food. I was either exceptionally good or exceptionally bad.

I’m struggling with my pain just now, most days I’m in agony, I’m taking lots of pain killers, and feeling sorry for myself. And I’ve always been an emotional eater, so I’ve been picking. But deep down I really wanted a good week, which is why the good days have happened.

I’m happy with 1/2lb loss! Yes, I wanted more, but I’m beginning to realise that this is going to be a slow and steady journey. I’ve got too many other things going on to want to focus just on eating healthy.

I will be good as much as possible, and I will try and make good choices as often as I can, but if I have a bad time, I’m not going to stress about it. I’ve also made an appointment with my Doctor to discuss pain management & might ask about upping my anti depressants too. I’ve got the best support team though and they know what to do to make things better.

Anyway – other stuff! I had my 30 year work anniversary on Wednesday! It doesn’t feel like 30 years. I’ve been genuinely happy there, I’ve learnt so much, and grown so much. And I work with some of the most wonderful people. They have me, they look out for me, they are there for me, they are my family. And I wouldn’t want to work anywhere else.

I’ve had a moment too! I’ve been dying my own hair for as long as I can remember- I have grey hair to cover – but recently I’ve been going lighter, and have ended up blonde. They didn’t have my normal colour this month so I bought a bleach blonde! And jeez! It worked! Not sure I like it, it’s a bit yellow, but I’ve got lots of purple shampoo that apparently strips the yellow out so fingers crossed.

I’m away with work next week, I’m going to Paris. I love going away, I really do, but I’m tired and sore, and I’m not looking forward to it this time! I’ve also got my confidence & anxiety issues that don’t help! I’ll be fine once I get there, it will fly by, and I will learn lots, but just need to get to Tuesday first.

So! Till next week in my muxed up world……

Much love

Instagram. #michelle1969

March is Autoimmune Disease Awareness

Now this covers lots of diseases – Fibromyalgia, MS, Lupus …..

Most of them are invisible & happen deep with in us.

I can only talk about Lupus as thatโ€™s what Iโ€™m learning to live with.

Thereโ€™s the nasty bits, the big scary bits when it causes my body to attack itself – my kidney, but can attack any of your major organs. This bit is managed by lots of tablets and tests though.

Itโ€™s the other things, the daily battles. The constant pain, when it hurts to get up, but it hurts to stay still. The constant fatigue, when I can sleep for a whole day and not feel like Iโ€™ve had any. Not helped by it hurting to lie down, so Iโ€™m tossing and turning trying to find a way to lie that doesnโ€™t hurt quite as much.

Itโ€™s coming home most nights after work in agony, having to go up the stairs on all fours as I havenโ€™t got the strength left in my legs to get me up them. Not moving far from the settee all weekend as I have nothing left to give. Going to bed most nights before 9pm in the hope of getting some sleep.

And then thereโ€™s the brain fog. This is the scary thing for me. I will be half way through doing something & I then canโ€™t remember what I was doing. I have to sit, and focus, and concentrate so hard till it comes back to me. I do things and donโ€™t remember doing them, I think Iโ€™ve done things when I havenโ€™t. I have notes everywhere reminding me what to do on a daily basis.

Then thereโ€™s the dizzy spells, the migraines, the anxiety, depression, the constant crying for no reason, the panic attacks …..

Thereโ€™s the constant worry that Iโ€™m going to pick up a bug – with everything else going on, I have nothing left to fight through an illness too, and unfortunately when the tablets Iโ€™m on lower my immune system, Iโ€™m going to pick them up!

Every day is a constant battle to stay positive & keep smiling when all I really want to do is curl up in a dark corner and hide away from everything

Iโ€™m extremely lucky as I have a brilliant team of Doctors looking after me, and the most wonderful friends and family who know what I go through and support me and encourage me and look out for me. Without all you I would struggle a lot more.

So thank you for listening & for being there ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

And apologies for the very long waffle.

Back on Track! From tomorrow!

Week 7

15 stone 8lb.

3 stone 8lb to goal

2lb loss

27000 steps

Well I went to class, really didn’t want to as I’d slept badly and was in a lot of pain, but I’d worked myself up to going, so off I went.

It was lovely seeing everyone again, they really are a nice bunch, all very friendly & supportive, and know I will make some good friends.

I lost 2lb, and I was so annoyed with myself. I’d wanted to lose 7lb so that I was back to my start weight, and I could have done it if I’d behaved myself this last week! But no! I’m my own worst enemy.

I was tired this week, it was a struggle going back in after being off for nearly 3 weeks, and it was month end, so always odd hours. Thursday I could barely move, everything was hurting so much, but luckily I could work from home, and cry on my own.

Excuses I know, but it’s meant poor food choices, I haven’t had the energy to think, and I’ve wanted comfort food.

Today – I’m off plan! Sort of anyway. We’ve been out for breakfast, had a lovely fry up! And I have hot cross buns for later.

Tomorrow will be another day, I will get over my strop, and get back on track properly. Lovely roast dinner with lots of veg. and SW roasties, my favourite meal ever.

And I’ve got soup prepared for lunches next week, just need to actually get them out of the freezer.

I’ve bought a countdown, so I’m signed up for the next 12 weeks at least.

I just need to stay positive.

Much love

Instagram. #michelle1969

Back to Being Me!

I’m not ready to give up yet!

I’ve had a few really bad weeks, but it’s mainly been down to my virus! I struggle every day, with pain and fatigue, so when I get an illness as well, it’s just too much.

Anyway, the virus has gone now, and I’m back to normal – or as normal as I get! And I’m ready to keep fighting, and working, and pushing as much as I can.

Yes – I would love to give up work, and concentrate on me, but that’s not going to happen any time soon, so I’m going to get as much positive out of it as possible, and enjoy it, till my next black spell at least. And I miss my colleagues too much when I’m not there.

Not doing my weekly stats this week, didn’t go to weigh in again – don’t get paid till tomorrow and I’m skint! So figured I wouldn’t bore you with the same figures again . I am being good though, when I get weighed next week I would like to have lost my Christmas weight so I can start afresh.

Till next week


Brain in Overdrive!

Week 5

15 stone 10lb.

3 stone 10lb to goal

No weigh in

19000 steps

No weigh in again this week. I did have every intention of going! Woke up 5 minutes before my alarm, went to the loo, got back into bed, and don’t remember a thing for another 2 hours.

My head is all over the place this week, I think I’ve had too much time on my hands to think.

I know it’s most probably down to me not feeling well, but the ever so wonderful depression is sneaking in again.

I’ve come to the conclusion that I haven’t got the energy or strength to work full time, and live.

For the last year all I’ve done is go to work, and sleep. I get up, go to work, come home, eat, go to bed, and that’s it. Weekends aren’t much more exciting. I go out for an hour or so Saturday morning, make some soup or do some other food prep on Sunday, possibly go out for a walk to our local park and that’s it.

I’m not sleeping properly, even though I’m so incredibly tired all the time. I’m in constant pain, it hurts to sit, it hurts to move.

I’ve tried this for almost ayear now, and it’s not getting any easier, if anything, it’s getting harder.

Now I know all this is due to my Lupus, even the depression comes with it, but I don’t know what to do about it.

I can’t give up work, and I’m not sure I want to, but I certainly don’t want to just work.

I know it’s tough on hubby too, he doesn’t know what to do to make it better for me either, and he worries so very much about me, and I don’t want that, so I’m not talking about it much, trying to hide it, but he sees the pain in my eyes when I stand, or sit for too long.

I figure I need to go and speak to my doctor, see what my options are, but that also feels like admitting defeat, admitting that I can’t cope, and I’m a stubborn madam, I don’t want to give in.

Sure all will be fine once this virus clears properly, but I do need to shake myself up a bit.

Anyway -till next week

Much love

Instagram. #michelle1969

Feeling sorry for myself

This is going to be a very wallowing in self pity post!

Feel free to skip it, and I will return to my normal positive self shortly.

So! I’m not well! I have a viral infection! And I feel like crap!

Now I don’t know if it’s the virus that’s so bad, or the Lupus that makes it worse, or the meds I’m on that make me more prone! Whatever the reason – I wish it would do one!

Started off last Wednesday with a sore throat, and went down hill rapidly from then.

A bit of background – Lupus is an autoimmune disease which means my body basically attacks itself, and I’m on really strong tablets to lower my immune system to protect my body a bit.

Unfortunately this means that I pick up anything & everything.

It’s currently 1am, and I’m lying in bed in pain!

Everything is hurting, and I mean everything! The worst pain is in my legs, my shins and ankles, and my hips! But my hands are bad too, and my shoulders.

When I stand up at the moment, my joints are in agony, and I have to stand for a minute or two for them to adjust to the new angle! I’m having to go up the stairs on all fours as my knees can’t support the weight while stepping!

I’m struggling to hold my phone, actually, I’m not holding it, it’s laying on my pillow & I’m typing with one finger.

On top of this, my throat is sore, it hurts to swallow! Although I have found that whole meal toast scratches my throat and gives me some relief! My nose is streaming! I’m doing a very good impression of Rudolph! And I have the most awful hacking cough! That alternates between making me sick and crying!

Been to the doctors and she’s signed me off work for 2 weeks! My chest is clear at the moment, but I’m to do deep breathing exercises to keep it that way! I have a slight temperature and a slightly inflamed throat. Nothing to risk a course of antibiotics just yet! I’ve just got to ride it out for now. Plenty of fluids, plenty of painkillers, plenty of rest!

I’ve got my normal bloods in the morning so that will put my mind to rest that it is just a virus and not a flare! I do know it’s not, but no harm in being sure!

I hate being ill so much, I hate not being able to have fun with hubby, or just enjoy being with him! Both of us work full time and are shattered when we get home, so our time together when we are awake is precious.

I hate being ill so much, I hate seeing the concern and worry in my sons eyes! He really struggled when I was bad, and he is so protective of me now!

I hate being ill so much, I hate worrying my mum & dad! They want to look after me, and they struggle with not being able to.

I hate being ill so much, I hate hearing my friends worry about me!

I hate being ill so much, I hate not being able to do things around home! I don’t do an awful lot anyway, but putting the extra pressure on hubby to look after me as well is horrible.

I hate being ill so much, I hate letting my boss down! I love my job, and enjoy it, and have a lot of responsibility & I can’t be there to get it done!

My dying swan act is still very raw for my close ones, and I know how difficult all this is for them.

The sooner I get over this, the better! So Doctors orders will be followed.

If you made it this far, thank you for listening! Normal service will resume shortly.


The best laid plans …..

Week 5

15 stone 10lb.

3 stone 10lb to goal

No weigh in

24000 steps

Floored this week. Wednesday afternoon I started with a sore throat, nothing much really, just a bit dry.

Thursday morning, just after midnight I woke up in agony! Literally everything hurt, my feet, my ankles, my shins, as well as all the normal bits that hurt daily, only so much worse. And my head! I have no words!

I honestly couldn’t lie or sit in any position as it hurt to touch anything, I didn’t know what to do with myself.

Took the day off work and phoned my nephrologist who told me I needed to speak to my rheumatologist. He thought it was “just” a flu bug, rather than a flare, and told me to drink plenty, take regular pain killers – which I do anyway, and bed rest. If no better on Monday I should phone back. It was a relief to know they didn’t think it was a flare – that was freaking me a bit.

And that’s pretty much been me for the last 4 days.

I’ve stopped crying with the pain now at least, but it’s gone to my chest and my nose has kicked off today. But I slept last night, which is the best feeling.

So no weigh in, but I did sneak a peek on my scales, and I’m happy with how things are going, at least I haven’t had the energy to go off plan either.

I’m beginning to realise there’s more to this Lupus thing than I first thought. Yes, I know it’s serious, and I know it’s bad, and it’s going to effect my life, but I’ve had a couple of bugs in the last couple of months, and they have both completely floored me. Now I don’t know if that’s down to the Lupus, or the meds I’m on, or a combination of the both, but whatever it is, it’s not good, it’s getting me down, and really struggling to find the positive in all of this just now. I hate having no control, I hate not being to get up and fight through it, I hate having to give into it, I hate being unreliable.

Anyway – till next week ….


Instagram. #michelle1969

Leibster Award 2018

Well! To say I was shocked, and a little bit overwhelmed is an understatement! I don’t think I’ve ever been nominated for anything – especially not for my waffle!

Thank you so very much to The F Word, a great lady, and a great blog – a must read if you’re looking for inspiration!

The purpose of the award, which you are nominated for, is to encourage others to discover new blogs that they may find interesting & to congratulate other bloggers for their hard work and to share their blogs in order to boost traffic to their site – although I’m hardly going to boost much as I have very few followers ๐Ÿ˜‚

If you are nominated and accept, you then list 10 random facts about yourself, answer the questions asked by the blogger who nominated you, then nominate other bloggers that inspire you, and set questions for them to answer! I think that’s it anyway.

So here goes!

10 random facts!

  1. I hate doing lists about myself – I never think I can find enough interesting facts about me to do a list.
  2. I’ve been married 24 years and we have a 20 year old son. They are my life, and my support, and my inspiration.
  3. I’m the proud owner of just one kidney, after losing my other one when I was in hospital in 2016
  4. I’m a systems analyst and internal auditor – a very posh title for a spreadsheet geek! And I love my job.
  5. March 2018,I will have worked for the same company for 30 years
  6. I can’t drive
  7. I love food. So very much, which is why I’m the size I am now.
  8. I am stubborn. I don’t like anything getting the better of me.
  9. Im a positive soul, very annoyingly so sometimes, but it’s my stubborn streak & positivity that got me out of hospital alive so I’m not complaining
  10. I love running. It is my passion. I started in 2006,after never doing anything athletic or sporty in my life and I was hooked. It’s my escape from the real world, it’s my freedom, my thinking time, and I miss it so much.

Answers to the questions set!

1. What inspires you to blog about your chosen subject? In October 2016, I was seriously ill and my life changed forever. I spent 9 weeks in hospital doing a dying swan impression, and was finally diagnosed with Lupus. Putting down my thoughts & struggles & how I deal with all the crap, helps it all make sense to me.

2. How old would you choose to be if you didn’t know how old you are? I’m more than happy being 48 years old. I’ve always been happy with my age, as each different time brings with it something new to challenge me and enjoy.

3. If you had an opportunity to get a message across to a large audience, what would it be? Stay positive! Be as positive as you can! Always try to find that one positive! It’s got me through a lot of stuff with a smile on my face

4. What would you do differently if you knew no-one would judge you? I have no idea how to answer this one. I honestly don’t think I would do anything different.

5. Have you done anything lately worth remembering? I don’t lead a particularly exciting life, getting up every morning and going to work is exciting as it gets. And as I struggle with my memory now, it would be hard for me to remember anyway ๐Ÿ˜‚

6. If you could start all over again, would you? Definitely not. My life is what has made me into me, changing anything, no matter how small, could lead to so many things changing! Have you seen Back to the Future????

7. What activities make you lose all track of time? Running – without a doubt! I haven’t run properly for about 16 months, but that was always my escape. I am trying to get back to it, very slowly! I miss it so much!

8. If you had to teach me one thing, what would it be? Take each day as it comes. You truly don’t know what tomorrow will bring, so enjoy everything.

9. When was the last thing you tried something new? Recently I was talking to a friend who wants to be an internet sensation & I decided to give it a go too just to see what all the fuss was about. I now have over 700 followers on Instagram looking at pictures of my food. All very odd. And not something I think will last but long, but it’s a bit of fun at the moment.

10. Time or money? I would love more time, so I could live life at my speed, and enjoy my free time more.

And now for my nominations

The three ladies I’m nominating are all hugely inspirational. Each one started their blog as a health, fitness, weight loss blog, and all 3 have bared their souls, and it’s been a pleasure & delight reading about their struggles and successes and their feelings.

1. ย Lorn Pearson Trains…ย ย ย 

Lorn was the very first blog I discovered, before I knew what a blog was. I’ve really enjoyed following her life these last few years, and she has inspired me, and made me smile, and also made me cry a few time reading about her tough times

2. Rny4me.

Another truly inspirational lady. I’ve been following Michelle – such a lovely name – for about a year now. If memory serves me right, it was a year after her gastric bypass. It’s been wonderful getting to know her, and now following her training for a marathon.

3. Paula’s Weight loss Journey

Paula has only just recently started her blog, and I’ve only recently got to know her from work, and from following her amazing transformation through Facebook and Instagram. She is truly a beast. I’m really looking forward to getting to know her better.

And finally – 10 questions for my nominated few

1. Why did you start your blog?

2. What one thing would you change about your life if you could?

3. What makes you smile?

4. If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?

5. Favourite all time film?

6. What scares you?

7. Who is your hero?

8. Favourite season?

9. Cat or Dog

10. What are your long term goals?

Thank you ever so much for taking time to read this – very long – post, and for taking part.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I – surprisingly- did